Saying “no” takes less than a second. If this is the case, then why is it so hard to say “no”? How can one short word feel so powerful and intimidating? 

 

         The Merrimack-Webster Dictionary defines “no” as a word “used to give a negative answer or reply to a question, request, or offer.” However, saying “no” is not necessarily a negative thing. 

 

          As with everything else, saying “no” can have consequences, but we should not let the disadvantages overshadow the benefits. “No” is an option, a right, how we learn to make decisions, and how we prioritize ourselves. Growing up, my parents told me “no” many times, as any parent does with their child. My parents would tell me, “No, you can’t eat candy at this time” or “No, you can’t go out late at night.”

 

         At the time, I dreaded hearing “no.” Looking back at it now with a new perspective, I can now see that it was for my own good, as my parents had their best interest at heart. Now, years later, I am in college and in the workforce, and I find myself having trouble saying “no.” If people say “no” to me, why can’t I do the same?

 

         The pressure to please everyone keeps me doubting and prevents me from creating boundaries and putting myself first. I have been presented with opportunities such as joining new clubs, internships, and programs, which are great for my professional and personal growth. However, it takes more than a simple “yes” to get the actual job done. Before accepting an opportunity, certain questions need to be asked such as, can I handle it? Is it something I will enjoy? Is it worth it? Will I have time for it? And most importantly, will I have time for myself? 

 

         This is a problem many students and adults have; they fail to prioritize themselves. Life is more than pleasing others and giving the best impression. It is important for students like myself to learn that there are ways to make a good impression and accomplish your goals without burning yourself out. 

 

          Now, that does not mean we should let great opportunities pass and use “burn out” or “boundaries” as an excuse. 

 

         The solution is finding an equilibrium, learning what you can handle, and knowing your limits. However, this is not something that happens overnight. It takes time to learn your limits and establish boundaries. As much as I try, I still find myself in those positions “spreading myself too thin,” clearly, it is a learning process. 

 

         Balancing school, work, and personal needs for me mean prioritizing each at the right moment. However, there will always be a moment where I have to choose between taking on another project at work, club responsibility, or studying for an upcoming exam. Learning how to find stability between these responsibilities such as deadlines is important. Whether that is scheduling specific dates and times designated for homework or studying, and giving yourself limited time for certain assignments. Use a technique that works best for you. Personally, when I have the time, I get ahead of my homework. Nevertheless, this pacing may be hard to keep up with. It is essential for me to have personal time, even if it is just for one day. Doing the things that I love, such as going out with friends, watching a movie, or reading a book, brings me personal fulfillment. Balance means both making time for yourself and making time for other obligations you may have. Although I took a day off to mentally recover from an assignment, I know that is not the end of the world...Time to get back into the routine. 

 

        Saying “no” is only part of your journey in learning how to balance the responsibilities in your life, and it is okay to say so.